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I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. My boyfriend already knows. Help please? I AM GOING TO KEEP THE KID. I need help telling my parents.

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Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

As a mother of 2 adopted children, please be as selfless as the 2 young women who gave birth to my children were. 

Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

Mom, Dad, there is something that I need to tell you. I'm two months pregnant and Matt is the father of the baby. I know you're disappointed in me for this and I don't blame you.

Sierra, you're going to need to formulate a plan here. Some questions they are going to ask: What about child care? If you are planning to still continue on with high school (which I do recommend), who's going to take care of the baby while you're in school? Who's going to pay for this child care?

Who's going to pay for the diapers / formula / etc. That goes along with having a baby?

Think of what your parents will ask you and then figure out what you're going to do / how you're going to answer them. If you were my daughter, I would feel much better if you were to say - Mom, I'm pregnant; I do want to keep the baby and here's how I think it will work and then line out your plans.

Get your ducks in a row so when you talk with mom and dad, they can see that you've thought this through. Good luck.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

You suck it up and ask your parents to sit down for a chat and tell them. If you feel you are adult enough to have a baby, you better be adult enough to tell your parents. Telling your parents is actually a lot easier than many of the things you will face as a parent.

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Cindy Lou answered

Listen to me. I was raised by someone who got pregnant with me at 15. Even as a 2-3 year old , I could tell she had no idea what she was doing. And since I was so little, I was completely dependent on her for my life. Yes she got married to my dad, but he was working a lot.

I remember my mother crying all the time because she was so tired.

She was too young. She did the best she could for her age , but sometimes that's not enough.

I don't believe anyone who says they're smart and mature enough to raise a baby at 15. I believe THEY THINK THEY ARE, but the problem is you're pregnant at 15-not too smart.

You have some unbelievable surprises in store for you and there will be lots of stress and tears. Just the fact that you say you're mature enough at 15 to do this says lots.

Even people age 30-35 get a rude awakening, physically and emotionally, when they have a newborn and are exhausted.

But what I say doesn't matter because I can tell by the comments you've made. But if you do have a breakthrough realization, there are so many that would adopt your baby and do an "open adoption". That means you can be a part of their lives.

That's what my daughter has done . She's adopted a baby who is now age 3 and the bio-mother is invited to birthdays parties and other experiences. 

Well, not much else to say. Good luck to your baby.

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

I just read your thread under Sudo the Dragon's answer.

Given that additional information about you, I would just tell them.

Let them know you need to talk with them---either or both at the same time, and that it's important.

As a parent, I might think it unfortunate that you are pregnant at this age, but I'm not sure that I would be "disappointed" in you.

Wait and let them tell you how they feel about being grandparents.

Their feelings will be as much a reality as your pregnancy, but are obviously subject to change as they come to accept the news.

Best of luck---I think you do have a good attitude about this.

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

Understand one thing .. It's time to grow up.

You wanna play the 'adult' role ... then do that .. Accept your responsibilities as they fall .. And stop acting like a scared little child.  Tell your parents, deal with the fall out .. And move forward. 

A new child coming into the world needs a responsible parent able and willing to sacrifice and do what it takes to navigate through this world...not another child afraid of disapointing her parents.  Get over it .. And move on.

Cristopher Anne Profile
Cristopher Anne , Talk to your parents, answered
It is really good that you are going to be mother. Firstly talk to your parents. If your boyfriend is ready to have responsibility of this child than you can have this pregnancy. If he is not ready to marry you then don't take this pregnancy. It will ruined your future. But before any step up, firstly talk to your parents.

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