Is It Good To Bottle Things Up, Or Is It Better To Talk To Someone About A Problem?


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Jacquelyn Mathis Profile
It is far better to talk about a problem than it is to let it sit and fester. It isn't healthy to not talk about something because what you think and feel, have a bearing on how you behave in general. When you talk about things, you get a good idea how people behave in this situation, which might be very normal. Also, you can find that you are not the only person to go through something like that. Hope this helps, talk to someone, and good luck.
emma waite Profile
emma waite answered
It's better to talk,I've had a big family problem in the past few months,I bottled it up and I ended up driving myself mad and was close to a breakdown,I ended up on antidepressants,please speak to someone,if you can't speak to a member of your family,go see your doctor and they can sort counseling for you
Tina Profile
Tina answered
Always try to talk your problems out, either with a trusted friend or a parent but if it is something personal there is always a therapist who can help.... It is never good to bottle things up, little problems only grow when you leave them to fester. If you are in a situation where you are unable to talk to anyone, then write them down in a notebook for just you, then put them aside, it sometimes helps to look at it in a fresh light
thanked the writer.
Priyanka Nand
Priyanka Nand commented
Thanks but I can't really talk to parents about anything, there are some things thats shouldn't be told to parents, and this would prob be one of them..its just that so far in my life iv always kept my problems to myself, but this problem i cant handle so much on my own...I just don't know how to deal with it anymore...and i cant go counselling without family(parents) knowing..
Ty commented
Open communication between parents and their children must begin at an early age. This must be maintained consistently through the critical years of a child beginnig from the first use of verbal communication, by the child, using sentences and equating them to ideas, roughly about the age of 4-5. If parents maintain actively communicating with their children, throughout their school years especially, then the children will grow up feeling at ease to discuss about anything with their parents. Establishing open lines of communication between parents and their children maintains a healthy home environment and atmosphere. One of the easiest ways parents can consistently maintain open communication with their kids is to ask them how their day was. And if parents make a habit of having the family seated at the dinner table each day, the opportunity to communicate with their children is far easier, creating the opportunity for open communication to commence.
nettie Profile
nettie answered
It is always good to talk,but if not write your problem down,write it as many times as need be until you feel you can now discuss it with someone you trust,to bottle things up causes stress big time which can and will lead to other medical problems or issues....hope this helps in a small way....
Mati green Profile
Mati green answered
I have to agree with everyone else... Its far better to talk out a problem than to keep it inside.  I tend to keep my feelings bottled up until they all explode at one time... And I know thats not good. If you have an issue its better to face it as soon as possible and get it over with, but I hate confrontation and tend to ignore it and avoid the person who upset me.
Michelle New Zealand Profile
I agree with what everyone said here but I want to talk out of a Medical point of view.  A lot of heart diseases, carner and a lot of other illnesses develop because of the stress people have of keeping things in instead of getting it out in the open.  So please speak to someone about your problem
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I agree, it is much better to talk about a problem you're having than holding it in.  A lot of times your frustration over the problem will cause you to react to other things in a negative way, causing a lot of confusion for everyone involved.  So talk away, get it off your chest and stop stressing!  :)
Brian Reed Profile
Brian Reed answered
My self I have no problems(denial), but I have heard that if you do it is better to talk it over with someone. The ideal person fro this of course is a person whom you do not know and that does not know you, The reason for this is that then the person can look more objectively into your situation and give a more unbiased advice.
Dena May Profile
Dena May answered
Always the answer would be to talk about the problem. If you keep things bottled up inside then eventually it will all come out and cause you more stress and anguish in the end.
martha Profile
martha answered
Don't bottle things  up, they eventually will come out and maybe in a very bad way.  Find someone to talk with, a friend or family, counselour or minister, etc.
mike carlsen Profile
mike carlsen answered
It's always best to ask questions and talk about problems. I can tell you first hand, I spent far too many years meing closed up emotionally. It's just not worth it ;)
Penny Kay Profile
Penny Kay answered
I think it is much better to talk to someone. When we keep things bottled up, they tend to get bigger, and may begin to overwhelm us. When we share with others, we  can get an objective perspective, that will help us to realize that we are not unique, and that there may be more solutions than we realized.
Onetwo Bucklemyshoe Profile
Definitely talk. When you I am going through a difficult time in your life or just have a teeny problem, it is always a good idea to talk it over with someone who trust. Often times I am actually happier after I've had a deep conversation with my mom or one of my friends. The longer you keep something inside of you, the more it haunts you, and then finally, you will just boil over and be an emotional wreck...keep it simple and say what's on your mind. Hope that helps! (^_^) Nadene
Ty Profile
Ty answered
I'm going to assume that the phrase: "bottle things up" is an analogy meaning: "containment" or "to confine something without release from where it is contained". If the phrase is to be interpreted as I am presuming then: "to bottle things up" is refering to keeping feelings and thoughts to oneself without releasing them in some fashion. The release of a feeling or thought can be condoned in many ways. In a psychological sense, it is always good to release thoughts and feelings instead of "bottling them up" inside of oneself. Since the latter half of the question: "or is it better to talk to someone about a problem", obviously implies the things that are "bottled up", as in the first part of the question: "is it good to bottle things up", is being interpreted as though: "to talk to someone" is one type of release of a "thought" or "emotion", described in this question by using the term: "problem". It is presumed by some people, involved in the profession as psychologists, that to "bottle up", "build up", "containment within the confines of the mind", "unexpressed emotions or feelings"--all of these could lead to the manifestation of a physical illness of the body. Therefore, it is indeed best to either talk to someone about a "bottled up" thought, feeling or emotion, that is bothersome or troubling one's mind, or to release the frustration or anxiety of being ignored about your "bottled up" problem or disturbing feeling/emotion or thought. The best way to maintain a healthy mind and body is to always express a thought or feeling/emotion, outwardly to someone via discussions about that feeling or emotion rather than keeping the "bottled up" feeling or emotion contained within, unexpressed.
Helena Reilly Profile
Helena Reilly answered
Never ever keep things bottled up, no matter what that thing is, it will rip your insides out if you keep it in to long (it won't really rip your insides out, the just a sayingish thing)
nancy schweikert Profile
It is better to talk about problems, but it can be very hard. In addition, some people respond very poorly to confrontation, no matter how tactful you may be.  As a wise person once said to me, "you cannot have every conversation with every person". But, the way I see it is if I do not discuss the problem it will fester and the relationship with deteriorate.  So, some tips for discussing things are; Start out with "May I talk to you about something", this prepares the other person for a shift from regular discourse, and normally they become more receptive; Do not blame them for whatever the issue is, start sentences with "when you", for example, "when you don't return phone calls", then say how that affects you using phrases starting with "I", like " Then I feel ignored and I get angry".  If your attempt at a discussion goes badly, just realize that they are defensive for some reason and try to move on.

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