My Son Bangs His Head When He Is Very Angry He Is Starting To See A Child Psychiatrist. He Is 9 Years Old He Is Very Aggresive . What Should I Do?

Nancy,
      I also have a son that is 8 years old,will be 9 in November. He has always been aggressive and angry. His Dr. And psycologist has said he is ADHD secondary to Bi-polar. However they do not want to formally diagnose him as bipolar because then he would have to be treated medicine wise and there are a lot of risk at this age. Patience is a much needed thing and I have learned to speak softer with him. He said in counsiling last week it makes him angry to be picked on by his older siblings, he is the baby of 7, but yet his "fun thing to do" was pick on his siblings. It's crazy I know. Hang in there God can help you and I will Pray that you are given the wisdom and patience you need.oh one thing I was told by the psycol to start constantly reminding him how it feels to get so angry. My son is starting to realize and count to 10. Sometimes it works but it took a lot of practice before he did it alone. Also try to not show so much attention to the small stuff as far as reacting to it quickly, try letting him work it out to... My son used a ball bat and one of those "swing-away" things you would use for baseball practice. We made one in the yard by drilling a hole through a baseball and running a small rope through it, tie it off and hang it on a pole or a low branch of the tree. Hope it helps, God Bless you and your son.

Do what you are doing... Seeking help! :) Being willing to seek outside help, lets your child know that you are interested in his well being. Sometimes there is an underlying issue that creates the aggression. A child psychiatrist is a wonderful place to start! Do NOT expect the psychiatrist to have all the answers or to find a "quick cure". You need to reassure your child that he is loved no matter his behavior! Seperate the behavior from the child themselves. The behavior is bad behavior, the child is not bad. Good luck! You are off to a great start!

Hi my name is jaime arias my son is 18month and when he gets mad he bangs his head on everything what can I do to make him stop

I honestly think that children these days are much too spoiled and need to be disciplined like they were back when I was young. You might have to be more strict with him and no matter how many tantrums he throws just don't give in. Let him know that if he continues he'll go to bed without food. If you don't stop this behavior now think of how bad it could get when he's 19. Good luck and I wish the best to all parents.

Don't PUT YOUR SON ON MEDICATION. THAT SHOULD BE AN ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT. Usually its just an imbalance in his head that is causing aggression. There are natural vitamins he can take to calm him down like B complex vitamins or st. Johns wort. They are known to be calming and I use to take them. Look into foods or diets free from too much sugar. Thats helps a lot. Don't fall into that trap of he needs ridalin, he needs medication. Those meds drive children crazy.  Take him to a doctor that will put him on natural vitamins. The amount he takes can't be too much for his body. God Bless and good luck.