We received a marriage proposal from a family for my brother. The bride sister is mildly retarted, and one brother cant talk or hear, other brother is healthy. should we move on with this proposal or not?


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Rath Keale Profile
Rath Keale answered

In cultures where marriage decisions involve a lot of people, it is the parents who must consider these things carefully. To do otherwise would be irresponsible. 

I suggest you go to a community leader or spiritual leader that knows both families and ask for a candid conversation.  Then contact a genetic specialist, or even a student who studies genetics and ask the right questions.  You need to gather more real information discreetly to make a wise decision 

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Rath Keale
Rath Keale commented
I've thought about your question for a bit now. 50% of the children in that family have serious disabilities. I would turn down the proposal if I was your son's parent.
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Rath Keale commented
Your brother's parent.
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      look that it is ok

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Natalie Jo Price Profile

I am a bit confused as to your question. First off who is "we" and why would these things about the brother and sister be relevant? Second, the word "retarded" is politically incorrect and should not be used. As a mother to an autistic son, I found this question to be a bit close minded and particularly offensive. These things that you mentioned should not matter.

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Rath Keale
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In social systems that are different from you own, and there are dozens, these are extremely relevant questions. Matrimony decisions involve the entire family on both sides and a good decision is made. With 50% of the children in the other family experiencing serious disabilities, questions of genetics must be addressed.
Although the term 'retarded' may be offensive to you and within your culture, it isn't offensive elsewhere.
Your response to this question indicates a culturally isolated mindset. Perhaps even closed-minded. Not everyone would be thrilled to encourage disabled children into the family. This parent is asking the right questions to prevent a decision that would end up this way.

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