Muscle WEIGHS more the fat. So if you are doing repetitions of 6-8 you will gain bulkier muscle mass . . . You get more defined and leaner the higher the repetitions. Add at least 35 minutes of intense (as you can handle it) CARDIO to your work outs, and alter your diet to NOT take in more calories then you burn, and the weight tied to fat should start moving off . . . Since fat doesn't weigh as much as muscle this may seem to leave you slower.
Here is a Calorie Calculator to give you an idea of how many calories you should be consuming based on age and height.
Normally one tries to build the muscle that one will later refine in your exercises.
Generally speaking you will lose fat and build muscle at the same time---that's why you can sometimes lose, gain, or remain the same on the scale, but start to still look different in the mirror.
And then too, at times your body will temporarily retain water which it will later eliminate.
If you are working out and not overeating, you will eventually get to where you want to be.
Sounds like your doing some of the right things, maybe they just need to be tweaked. Flat Stomach, tight butt and thighs are a tough goal to reach. Proper balance is the the key. If you wants to calculate your weight on daily basis you can use this Weight Loss Calculator,it shows the appropriate results. I read this article on workouts and nutrition the other day and maybe it can help. Good luck!