Hi,
My first child was by an ex who had a baby mom. I kept the baby because I felt like the baby had nothing to do with the adult situation I was in. If it was a health problem then I would have to do what I had to do, on the other hand you don't have a relationship with his baby mom, it's the daddy. Does he take care of his other child? I learned a lot from that. If he's not taking care of the other baby, then you might want to think of some ways to take care of you and your baby. It was hard for me to get over my first baby father because I did care about him, but my baby was most important. Keep the baby. Did you meet the baby mom? If she's cool with talking to you, maybe you should try. Ask her a few questions. You might find out some things about the baby daddy that you don't know of, but be careful, you never know what people's intensions are. Baby mom's can hold grudges because the father isn't with them and got someone else pregnant. It sucks sometimes, but I couldn't stay with my baby's father, not because of the baby mom, it was because I was constantly feeling like the #2 girl and I didn't like it too much and the father wasn't being a father to my child so I left. I met someone new and he's my fiance now. He's been in my baby's life since she was 3 weeks old, even that says a lot. My baby father just wasn't around. There's more to the story, but give your situation a chance to find out the importance of what you need to know. Will he be around for the baby or when you need him? Is your finances where they need to be to take care of the baby? Is the baby mom crazy or will she make things harder for you? If the father isn't around, can you take care of the baby by yourself? Do you have friends and family who will help you? Babysitters? It definitely takes a village to raise a child. Everybody needs help and I hope I done something to help you on your way to success with your baby. I'm always open to talk. Good Luck!
My first child was by an ex who had a baby mom. I kept the baby because I felt like the baby had nothing to do with the adult situation I was in. If it was a health problem then I would have to do what I had to do, on the other hand you don't have a relationship with his baby mom, it's the daddy. Does he take care of his other child? I learned a lot from that. If he's not taking care of the other baby, then you might want to think of some ways to take care of you and your baby. It was hard for me to get over my first baby father because I did care about him, but my baby was most important. Keep the baby. Did you meet the baby mom? If she's cool with talking to you, maybe you should try. Ask her a few questions. You might find out some things about the baby daddy that you don't know of, but be careful, you never know what people's intensions are. Baby mom's can hold grudges because the father isn't with them and got someone else pregnant. It sucks sometimes, but I couldn't stay with my baby's father, not because of the baby mom, it was because I was constantly feeling like the #2 girl and I didn't like it too much and the father wasn't being a father to my child so I left. I met someone new and he's my fiance now. He's been in my baby's life since she was 3 weeks old, even that says a lot. My baby father just wasn't around. There's more to the story, but give your situation a chance to find out the importance of what you need to know. Will he be around for the baby or when you need him? Is your finances where they need to be to take care of the baby? Is the baby mom crazy or will she make things harder for you? If the father isn't around, can you take care of the baby by yourself? Do you have friends and family who will help you? Babysitters? It definitely takes a village to raise a child. Everybody needs help and I hope I done something to help you on your way to success with your baby. I'm always open to talk. Good Luck!
